Anal Sex
I apologise in advance! I am sorry for the awkward conversation! This is a weird topic.
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Anal, that is "anal sex"
Physical:
It is an exit, not an entrance. Poo comes out of there. It is a part of the body dedicated to waste management, not recreation. It is unsanitary. Also, I don’t think that is healthy long term for the muscles of the anus, or the lining of the anus. I don’t think that the lining of the anus or rectum is 100% adapted to penetrative sex, or *ahem* friction based sexual activities or any kind. I just don’t think that that part of the body evolved for the purpose of sexual intercourse.
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Physical abrasion/damage and anal sex:
The friction from anal sex or any foreign object inserted into the anus or rectum may break the skin, making it more susceptible to infection. Any kind of trauma to the rectum or anus increases the risk for things like anal fissures, infections and abscesses. As well as being linked to fistulas.
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Once you push through the anus. You enter the rectum. Which is the repository for stool. And is probably not the place where I wish to place my penis.
Anal sex can cause a fair bit of pain in many cases. And can be associated with increased incidence of fecal incontinence.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11588838/
Furthermore, aside from anal intercourse, that part of the body (the anus, rectum etc) can suffer from a wide variety of issues that often require medical attention (particularly those that occur during and after childbirth). Things like fecal incontinence and hemorrhoids, and anal fissures are already a significant problem among women. There are also severe problems that can occur later in life with that part of the body. Just in general. For example, a lot of women over the age of 55 suffer from serious pelvic floor issues, and other issues down there, including but not limited to areas such as the anus, rectum etc.
And given how many issues have occurred in women over time, and throughout history. I’m not sure anal is the best and healthiest sexual activity to engage in with a woman.
However, the vagina exists. It is pretty close to the anus, and it is highly suitable for a variety of highly enjoyable sexual activities. Furthermore, mouths and hands exist.
Relational/emotional
Anal hurts women sometimes/often. Anal sex I mean. And I don’t really want to do something that hurts them. And it is degrading. I don’t know that I want to behave in a degrading manner like this. I’m not sure that I want to have a relationship that involves behaving in a manner that involves sexual cruelty and degradation.
And it is gross and degrading. Not just cruel or mean. It is disgusting. Sort of. Bowel movements come out of there? You’re degrading the woman in a way that is unsanitary, and just gross. And you’re getting poo on yourself. I just don’t think it is a good activity from a relational point of view??
Perhaps I’d rather have a relationship based on genuine care and concern for the other person?
Mammalian
On a basic animal level. I don’t think it is healthy (psychologically) for a woman to have penises thrust into her anus, and perhaps more importantly, for men to go doing it. There is actually an instinctive revulsion feeling (and/or fear) that goes along with engaging in anal sex. And perhaps we (or I) ought not to blast past that. I can’t explain it.
When I first viewed anal sex in pornography, I felt a visceral sense of disgust. I felt sick to my stomach. I was appalled. I think that these feelings of disgust are hardwired and might be there for a reason. I think mammals have it hardwired into them that penetrating the elimination orifice of the female is disgusting. And the female has it hardwired into her that it is wrong, painful and awful. And some sort of violation. To ride roughshod over those feelings of disgust and fear of violation might be a mistake psychologically. Those built in “guard rails” might be there for a reason.
I just don’t think that orifice is built for that (evolved, adapted, designed natural selection etc).
Conclusion:
It might just not be my cup of tea. There is contact with feces. There are visceral feelings of disgust. And I think it is gross and degrading in an unsanitary manner.
I am also a little reluctant to encourage or participate in a culture that seems to be working to normalise anal sex.
Anal sex may perhaps just not be my cup of tea.
Here is a good slogan, "poo should be taboo".
End of post.
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On a different note:
Second post, currently unfinished. An exploration and discussion of what I might want, if society were a less horrible place.
What do I want? And what do I value?
Perhaps the sort of relationships I’d like are those where… You might love, cherish and adore them.
Like a friends with benefits type of arrangement where you care deeply about them and for them? Or a partner, girlfriend, wife, that type of thing.
I keep on getting asked… what do you want? And maybe I want good faith relationships based on trust, where you love them, and value them. Where you cherish and adore them. Maybe I don’t want “sin, debauchery and lust” like I was ordered to (they forcibly indoctrinated me into those values). Maybe I would prefer things like… desire, love, adoration, and ordinary affection, along with good company and a bit of friendship.
Umm. By relationships, I mean things including a friends with benefits type arrangement, or multiple live in girlfriends. Or even just one partner. These people are obsessed with polyamory? But having one partner might not be so bad.. but they seem to insist that I needed multiple partners?? I would actually, in an ideal world, be really happy with a normal girlfriend, at least once I had improved my health.
Ummmmm. I’d like a fair bit of ordinary sex with women (or at least one woman) that I really like and care about?
I do really "want" women, I just don't see it as sin or debauchery? I value, appreciate and desire them (or at least one of them, at a time)
[A digression: Way back in Khandallah, these guys told me that I needed “sin, debauchery, and lust” but I don’t agree. Firstly, I don’t think that sex is “sinful”. I don’t want “debauchery”. And I prefer the idea of desire to lust.]
Define: To "debauch" is to debase or corrupt through intemperance..
I don't want to corrupt..? I don't want to corrupt them??
I don't really want to debauch women!! I would rather have someone good and trustworthy!! But everything I am interested in in life is illegal!!
I would rather someone trustworthy, decent and genuinely lovable! But that's not allowed. Also, the skank brigade wanted to sperm jack me.
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However,
However, I won because I "shagged Dasha and loved it" (according to Xi), and then half a dozen women gave themselves to me forever, with carte blanche consent to do whatever I want with them. So I guess I'll hold on to the harem I never really wanted, but now have.
They were all bad people (except one), who have harmed me. So I guess that to accept a life time supply of sex from them is morally acceptable as a token form of reparations for the harm they have done to me. I see it as: they are professionals in the area of sex work. They're sex workers, and the offer sex as a service in return for economic benefit. That is, remuneration. And if they wish to repay me for some of the harm done to me by their organisation, then they can provide it in services. I would rather that they pay me in cash, and also spend 20 years in jail (crippling a man for 7ish years is a big deal). But I don't have the option of getting them all out in jail for 20 years, and I can't sue them for cash. So I guess I have to settle as sex in lieu of damages.
And so, Ambika*, Angela, Grace, Brynn are all mine forever. Carte Blanche consent to do as I please.
Sarah (lawyer) and Siobhan both said yes, but then pulled out. Siobhan said both no and yes a few times. Clare said yes, but I politely said no.
They all volunteered. And signed up for a lifetime contract.
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